Do you want to know every detail, even if you know it will hurt you?
Do you fill in the blanks with absurd imaginary scenarios?
Do you sometimes think that you are going crazy?
The answer to the above questions, although complex and often confusing, can be given in two words: Retroactive Jealousy.
Feeling jealous is normal. No one is thrilled about their partner's dating history; however, unlike the garden variety green-eyed monster, retroactive jealousy (RJ) describes an obsession or feelings of envy related to your partner's past, typically around their previous romantic or sexual relationships.
I recommend that you read this book if:
Obsess over your partner's past relationships
Compulsively check their ex's social media profiles
Constantly compare yourself to your partner's previous partners
Distrust your partner, leading to invasive behaviors like phone-checking
Fill in gaps about your partner's romantic history with idealized scenarios
The good news? You can work through these feelings.
Fortunately, there are methods in this manual to identify and interrupt dysfunctional patterns and cultivate new ones that are helpful and tailored to you. It is important to do this for yourself and your loved ones.
You probably hate yourself for all those thoughts that obsess you, but before you start reading this manual I want you to be aware of three things: Everything you are experiencing is not ridiculous, you are not crazy, and you are not alone.
There is a way out and it is an extremely liberating feeling.