The Good Marriage: How and Why Love Lasts

When it first appeared in 1995, The Good Marriage became a best-seller. It offers timeless clues to the secret of happy, long-lasting marriages. Based on a groundbreaking study of fifty couples who consider themselves happily married, psychologist Judith Wallerstein presents the four basic types of marriage romantic, rescue, companionate, and traditional and identifies nine developmental tasks that must be successfully undertaken in a "good marriage" separation from the family of origin, up-and-down vicissitudes of early years, children, balance of work and home, dealing with infidelities, and more.

The men and women Wallerstein interviewed readily admit that even the best relationship requires hard work and continuing negotiation, especially in the midst of societal pressures that can tear marriages apart. But they also convey an inspirational message, for almost all of them feel that their marriage is their single greatest accomplishment. The Good Marriage explains why, and its lively mix of storytelling and analysis will challenge every couple to think in a profoundly different way about the most important relationship in their lives.

"Should be required reading for all who are interested in marriage."  **W. Walter Menninger**

"Should prove a lifesaver for many couples."  ***Publishers Weekly***

"Will enrich the sparse literature on happy marriages."  ***USA Today***

"One of the nice things about The Good Marriage is its modesty. It doesn't pretend to offer a philosophy or even a lecture on marriage. It takes no position on the ideologically charged issues of women's marital roles and status. Equally important, it ignores the two most common ways of talking about marriage as a contract negotiated between two equal parties and as the pathway to individual fulfillment. For this reason it is refreshingly free of 'rights' talk and therapy talk. Indeed, Wallerstein places much more emphasis on the development of good judgment and a moral sense than on the acquisition of effective communication or negotiation skills." Barbara Dafoe Whitehead, ***The Atlantic***

"A lagniappe to enduring couplehood... The strength of this study is that Ms. Wallerstein, a gifted interviewer, persuades the couples to reveal their interior lives in rich, explicit detail." Susan Jacoby, ***The New York Times Book Review***

"Written in a masterful style that often reads like the best popular fiction... Wallerstein and Blakeslee again combine their substantial talents... deftly and entertainingly exploring the foundations of good marriages." Tara Aronson, ***San Francisco Examiner & Chronicle***

"Groundbreaking."  ***Boston Globe***

"This is a wonderfully readable and immensely valuable book, full of wise and original insights about the many, many roads to marital happiness."  **Judith Viorst**

"With wisdom, humor, and sympathetic understanding, Judith Wallerstein helps us recognize and rediscover the good marriage... lucid, psychologically sophisticated, and generously wise." David Blankenhorn, ***Newsday***

"Historically informative as well as profoundly wise psychologically."  **Joan M. Erikson**

"For a long time, as a Rabbi, I've been using The Good Marriage, by the late Judith Wallerstein... in my pre-marital counseling. She provides... amazingly helpful insights [which] open up conversations and lead couples to think much more deeply about what they are getting themselves into and what they might need to do to keep their marriages strong."  **Rabbi Carl M. Perkins**

"A welcome addition to the field of literature on contemporary marriage... The style [is] clear, concise, sensitive and, occasionally, personal. Her personal additions... add warmth, emotional consciousness, and greater insight into what makes individuals and couples happy in their relationships. This book has value for the many audiences interested in

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