When we fail to do the hard talks, we are bound to listen to stories that touch. After six years of interacting with and listening to tens of hundreds of young people (preteens, teenagers and young adults), Ridwaanullah Abimbola unravels a universal trend of concerns, fears and frustrations. He has seen tween porn addicts, broken thirteen-year-old hearts, and sixteen-year-olds with countless 'body counts'. In Blinding Realities, he breaks young people's facade of innocence for just one reason: to get them help!
Blinding Realities pokes at our collective hypocrisy as parents and guardians: we scold young, chastity-seeking folks who want to love right while glossing over the open secrets of unavowed lovers. In good faith, the book rebuts the claim that previous generations were saints, reminding adults how difficult it was to be young and how more challenging youth has become. Many of us may not know that puberty is no longer what it used to be. Yes, puberty has changed! Blinding Realities shows how and advises us on how best to approach this change.
At a time when sex is up in the air and in a society where staying chaste is like holding on to burning embers, what options do youths and their parents have? What is puberty's 'new' nature, and why has it changed? What are some stark realities that play out in adolescents' secret world, and why should we be concerned? What is the truth about adolescent love? Why are today's youths 'hypersexual'? When did abstinence become impossible, and why? Why is contraception a can of worms? If contraception would do more harm than good and abstinence is easier preached than practised, what is the next alternative? Why is early marriage a red flag? And why will global divorce statistics probably get worse in the years to come? These are a ton of questions to which Blinding Realities has provided tons of sufficient answers.
Blinding Realities is unlike any book you have read. If you are a parent, guardian, teacher, school owner, counsellor, social reformer, policy maker or young person, this is the most important book you need this century to get adolescent sexuality right.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Ridwaanullah Abimbola is a celebrated writer, teacher, youth mentor, coach and social educator. Born into a family of teachers, Ridwaanullah has an inborn talent for teaching and impacting, which makes him a favourite of hundreds of students and mentees. Through his Genius and Intelligence Academy, he has trained over 500 youths on academic intelligence and personal development. He has also developed and delivered custom learning packages on life intelligence and comprehensive puberty education to schools and communities. He is a member of the International Adolescent Health Association (IAHA).