COVERT NARCISSISM IN LOVE AND SEX

I work with people on the sphere of love and publish books about it, because many people dream about love and then they find themselves in relationships that disappoint or worse, hurt and destroy them. Love is one of the fundamental human needs and no wonder it occupies an important place in our lives. Who wouldn't want to feel loved? But love is not only about taking, but also about being able to give love to others. Today I write about love relationships formed by people with the characteristics of covert narcissism, because an enormous number of former partners of such people are tormented by the question of what the other person felt and whether it was love. Narcissists create a kind of emotional connection in which the other person is a giver, an object needed to supply the narcissist with life-giving energy. Narcissists can fall in love but they are not able to love. Isn't it true that a relationship that one forms with someone is a reflection of the relationship one has with himself? In a trauma-bond with a covert narcissist, the partner meets demons from his beloved's past. So let's have a look at how love entanglement with a narcissist looks like in life and in the bedroom. But before we get to the topic, a few words of introduction I use the word "narcissist" or "narc" not to label, because the diagnosis should be made individually by a mental health specialist. Using this term, I refer to a group of narcissism-related characteristics. Narcissistic persons may have different intensity of traits, in other words they meet the criteria of narcissistic personality disorder or, if the intensity of traits is high, they have a feature of disorder, although they are not clinically disturbed. They may also have co-existing personality disorders. Also, narcissistic features are manifested in a more visible or hidden-covert way. Thus, narcissists are a diverse group, although having their specificity, which may be more or less intense. I use the male form to describe the phenomenon, but narcissism also applies to women.When writing about a romantic partner, I use the form "partner" as a generalization by which I mean a romantic partner being a woman or a man-partner of a narcissistic person. The reader can refer the information to a particular case, depending on the sex of the people in the relationship. Features and typical behavior strategies related to covert narcissism are typical for women and men. I also call the partner the "Source of supply" of vital energy, not out of disrespect, but that's what the partner is for the covert narcissist.I divided the text into 4 parts:

I. general characteristics of people with covert narcissism;

II. description of the love relationship cycle and typical behaviors of the covert narcissist;

III. sexuality associated with covert narcissism and its genesis.

IV. sexuality in a romantic relationship with the covert narc.

I devote special attention to sexuality related to covert narcissism, because it is an important and often overlooked area in literature that poses many challenges for partners.

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