#Choicematters: If It Is To Be, It Is Up To Me

We don't choose when, where and how we are born, neither do we choose how, where and when we die; the in between is up to us to influence. Fadzai's story starts in Katobo Village in Gokwe, Zimbabwe. Born in abject poverty, Fadzai's father was fired from work the year she was born with the equivalent of $50 in his pocket. Solely responsible for a family of nine, he invested in subsistence farming, which saw Fadzai graduate with a first degree and went on to get two masters degrees which earned her a respectable role in an international HIV/TB NGO organization.

Fadzai's life journey was marred by what seemed like insurmountable challenges. Life did not throw bricks at Fadzai but boulders. Married at 21; unfortunately losing her baby due to hospital negligence followed by a car crash that nearly claimed her life and soon after migrating to a new country; a terrible and messy divorce; Fadzai has experienced it all. Fadzai's divorce left her scarred, as a single mum, in debt, house repossessed , loss of self-esteem, frustrated, clueless and petrified. With a nearly empty emotional reservoir, Fadzai was desperate for a positive solution to the challenges which had just kept on coming, one after another. To recover, she chose to focus on what was in her control and this is a defining characteristic of 'Resilient Individuals'. Fadzai's journey to return to 'normal' was guided by several choices which she shares in this book.

Fadzai says "It is a matter of holding on to what gives you the innermost peace and believing that the universe has your back. If you make a mess it's OK, consider it a Whoopsie-daisy moment. Just step aside and wash yourself. Your self-worth does not vanish because your life is messed up. Rise up, clean-up and show-up. Make your decision with your soul, forget what society thinks about you, and remember they don't carry your oxygen tank. Accept that circumstances don't define you".

Whatever your life story is, whatever the history, no matter how ugly it
has been; embrace it because the truth remains. #CHOICEMATTERS

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