Have you ever finished a conversation with someone and felt, ¿Did I just say that?¿ or ¿Why didn¿t I just say it the way I meant it?¿ Many people feel inadequate when it comes to saying exactly what they intend to say or passing an effective message across. It seems as if the voices in their heads are louder than the words they speak or they have too few words to express the intentions on their minds. For others, speaking words or expressing themselves isn¿t much of a problem. However, their words and how they say or use them don¿t convey exactly the meaning they want.
But here¿s the thing; although many people may have trouble with verbal communication, it is not surprising to discover that they are good at stringing words together on paper or other media. Unfortunately, since verbal communication is one of the most frequently used methods of communication in our daily lives, it is not possible to walk around with a pen and paper trying to make everyone read your beautifully expressed words! Your intents have to be verbalized together with matching nonverbal cues in such a way that it can create the same impact that your words have on paper.
Learning how to be an effective communicator is not rocket science. Nevertheless, it is not a skill that should be taken lightly. It is almost impossible to have an amazing personality without knowing how to use words and nonverbal cues to your advantage. Building a strong rapport with your audience (whether it is just your boss or an auditorium packed full to maximum capacity) depends largely on how well you can use the power of communication.
Improving your communication does not end with reading about effective communication. Reading will be completely useless if you do not practice what you read. Thankfully, this book presents you with methods ¿ not merely a treatise on theories ¿ that can significantly alter your communication skills for the better.
I encourage you to not stop at just reading this book but to seek avenues to apply the lessons in it. Regardless of how shy, incompetent and uncharismatic you consider yourself to be, I urge you to take baby steps in implementing the tips suggested throughout this book. In no time, you will get over your shyness, develop your charisma, attract more people and opportunities to yourself, as well as improve your conversations. Interestingly, as you develop your communication skills, you will also be able to easily read people and their intentions even when they don¿t use words and you can tell when their words are in agreement (or not) with what they are communicating non-verbally.
Consider this as your handy guidebook that you can quickly consult at any time you need help to pass a message across. In other words, keep it handy until you master the skills you are about to discover.
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