Unmet expectations lead to disappointment, which, if not handled properly, can lead to a broken relationship, depression, divorce, or suicide. My goal is to help you prepare for marriage, or enjoy your marriage, by providing a series of questions to talk about during your communication time, to understand your lover's expectations and ideologies. Even though disagreement might occur during or after asking these questions, because of your differences, the secret of a successful relationship is flexibility, the ability to be flexible to create a balanced idea. Always remember that a relationship is between two individuals, with widely different perspectives about life, parenting, money, moral values, convictions, beliefs, etc.
As a life coach, I have studied and conducted different research on issues like dating, marriage, friendship, and families, which are forms of relationships, and I have realized that relationships are challenging. So, what makes lovers thrive in a challenging relationship is knowledge of each other.
Love alone can't sustain a relationship. Commitment alone can't uphold a relationship. You have to know and understand your partner. Understanding is very important.
(Proverbs 24:3 NIV) "By wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established."
This implies that a family is built on wisdom (the application of knowledge) and by understanding information, which is knowledge. In other words, through the application of the balanced ideas discovered as a result of knowing your lover, a successful relationship is established.
To get the most out of this book, ask yourself the questions in this book and ask your lover. Listen to and understand your lover's answers to each question, then politely communicate your answer. Always remember that disagreement is inevitable in a relationship. We urge you to avoid arguments. The goal is to arrive at a balanced idea, not to compete with each other. An old adage says, "We disagree to agree." It is better to disagree and later agree than to agree and later disagree. Remember, flexibility is very important in relationships. Learn how to UNLEARN, RELEARN, and LEARN. If you see that you are holding on to wrong ideologies and expectations about life, people, money, values, etc., learn new ideas, relearn ideas that are not good enough, and unlearn what is not true, so that you can be happy and have a successful relationship. At the end of this book is a proven method to help you balance your expectations and ideologies with your lover.
I wish you astonishing success towards a better relationship as you've taken a step to read this book.