After 36 years of marriage, it took one match to completely incinerate my relationship: a mistress. The destruction left no hope of recovery or survival. The damage done by my husband and his mistress not only burned my children and myself, but friends and family members along the way. Unfortunately there were no smoke signals to warn us of this imminent wildfire. In the wake of my ex-husband's affair, no one was safe from the flames. The ashes became the foundation on which I rebuilt my life.