SECRETS TO SELF-DISCIPLINE

Personal discipline is a prerequisite for success in any field. It's a requirement for succeeding at anything achievable. A person can measure their personal self-discipline by how well he/ she perform in small tasks. So say if you already knew that self-discipline was the #1 key to success and you still ask yourself why you're not achieving the results you expected then it could very well be the result of a lack of self-discipline.

Self-discipline is not something you do it's how you react to a certain feeling within yourself. It could be said to be the equivalent of exercising or anything else you would do on a repetitive basis to establish a repeatable and predictable habit. Very simply put, do the opposite of your content feelings or anything else that changes your focus until you've built up your self-worth to take them on as challenges.

A commonly accepted definition of discipline has more to do with punishment than discipline. Discipline should have to do with the process of teaching responsibility and moving children from depending on their parents to provide accountability and discipline to a point where the only discipline that is necessary is self-discipline. For example: A young man felt ill and came home from school an hour early. His parents were not home and he merely went to his room and went to sleep. A week later the school called and reported the absence to the parents. The father felt that it was his duty to take some action. The boy had no say in the matter and could not even remember the exact day that he had missed school. The punishment was given out, the youth was grounded for a week and deprived of the use of the car for two weeks. In the youth's eyes he was punished for no reason. It was a just punishment. No growth took place. No behavior was changed, no new habits were established and the father was declared to be a fool and one that you can't trust. Why would this boy ever want to take a big problem to his father.

The underlying purpose of any discipline should be to create a growth experience for the individual involved. The child should be as involved in the process as possible. The structure that governs how individuals interact with each other has a great impact on the growth of each individual in any group. Some important habits and attitudes are learned as a result of the structure that exists in the home and many of these habits and attitudes are not going to change much as a result of experiencing other types of structures.

All groups, including families need to have some kind of a rule system. This does not need to be overwhelming, but there does need to be a framework of expectations and consequences that are clear and understandable. Often, in a family, Dad has a set of rules that he grew up with that he insists upon adopting. Mother also has a set of rules that she grew up with and insists upon adopting. Then very often, without realizing it, they end up sabotaging each other's favorite rules. The kids sit in the middle waiting for the dust to settle. In the meantime they learn: Don't worry about rules, adults are not really serious about them anyway. It is important that parents recognize that their marriage creates the formation of a new and in many ways unique family unit. Each of their backgrounds is somewhat different from the other.

Often individuals marry, have children, and begin the process of rearing children without recognizing the importance of this idea. Sooner or later, however, parents have to come to grips with the personal backgrounds and goals of each individual partner. Instead of waiting until some problem occurs that must be solved by drastic action, it is wiser to recognize that families, like any other organization or group need a system of organization which is customarily called discipline.

Here is the Summary on how to increase and cultivate self discipline:

Self-discipline is the biggest human strength.

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