When you first arrive at this planet, you get someone's full attention. You cry, they feed you. You cry, they pick you up. You cry, they change your diapers
Hey! this is a good deal! All you have to do is cry and you get what you want.
Until
One day you cry and nothing happens. You cry louder, longer, and you hear words that say, "Not right now. Mommy's busy - give me a minute."
What! "Not now? What does that mean? You don't love me, you don't want me!" Confidence in your personal power is doomed - you no longer rule the world!
In the nursery you're playing with a red ball when suddenly a big person took it away and gave it to someone else. You cried, no one cared. Your world ended there. You realized you're not important, someone else is. No, not you. Your feelings are hurt - forever you lost your ball and self-confidence.
At that moment you learned you were weak, powerless. You gave too much credibility to others and too little to yourself. And, now you have to learn to see more accurately the strengths and weaknesses of yourself and others.
How does it all start - this lack of self esteem, this lack of self-confidence? What triggered it? Reflect on your life. Are you happy? Are you doing what you want to do, or, what you have to do? Or, what you're told to do?
Do you have any idea of how many ways there are to lose your self-confidence - even if you don't have any yet? There are myriad opinions of others, "Why don't you try", "I think you should", "But I think," "Are you really going to do, say, wear, that?" "Well, uh,you look ok," all day every day, in some way, you're undermined.
Awareness of your behavior and that of others is your best defense to build inner strength. This book provides real time situations, practical strategies to strengthen - and appreciate - your self and your self-confidence.