Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 Choice theory states that we choose everything we do, including the misery we feel. We are much more in control of our lives than we realize. We only believe we are victims of our past when we are depressed, but we are actually victims of our own choices. #2 The seeds of all our unhappiness are planted early on when we encounter people who have discovered what is right for them, and try to force us to do what they know is right. The choice we make in how we resist that force is what makes all the difference in how well we get along with others. #3 The psychology of external control is the source of so much misery because it is the belief in and use of coercion and control to get our way. It is the common sense of our ancestors, parents, teachers, and leaders. It has been with us so long that it is considered common sense. #4 The world we live in is full of common sense, which is the basic psychology we use to make decisions. But when it comes to making decisions that affect our relationships, we often rely on external control, which is the psychology of punishment and control.