Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 I wrote the first edition of Healing the Shame That Binds You in 1992. It has since sold more than 1. 5 million copies in the United States and more than one hundred thousand copies abroad. I was most amazed when the book hit the New York Times best-seller list. #2 Healthy shame is important in forming, directing, and fulfilling the sex drive. It is also important in forming mature and soulful sexuality. When I use the words affect, feeling, or emotion in this book, I will be referring to the complex combination of an affect with those memories that record their original occurrence, and with the affects that the affect may further trigger. #3 The nine innate affects are excitement, pleasure, startle, distress, fear, anger, shame, dissmell, and disgust. They are present in all human beings and help guide our decision and action. #4 The affect of shame is the most important aspect of our sense of self and our identity. It is also the source of most of the neurotic and character-disordered behaviors that we now understand.