"I had never done this before. It felt exhilarating, but at the same time, disquieting. I was sitting across from a rather corpulent man whom I'd never met, only emailed a handful of times after finding him online. Through those terse communications, we had gained a vague understanding of who we were and what we each wanted, and therefore felt it would be worth our whiles to meet. Both of us were married to women, but felt we were both bi. Curiously, though, we had had most of our sexual experiences with women. From my three brief same sex encounters, I thought that I was mostly a bottom with men, and he, in his one experience, had been a top. So, there was some likelihood we were compatible."